Using Mind-Set to Control Your Emotions

Sunday, 05 July 2015 09:15
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Are your strong emotions getting in the way of what you are trying to accomplish?  Do you have emotional outbursts that you wish you hadn’t?  Would you like to get control of these emotions?  Maybe this pearl can help.


Our strongest style and its symbiotic emotion pretty much controls our reactions to whatever comes our way.  It’s not easy to go against these genetics, especially when involved in a stressful situation—but it is possible if we plan ahead.  In general:

    Analyzers (perfectionists) can reduce their Fearful outbursts
    Directors (get-it-done-now people) can reduce their Angry outbursts
    Relators (relationship-supporting people) can reduce their Sorrowful outbursts
    Socializers (socially interactive people) can reduce their Joyfull (glee) outbursts


Our rational styles “sort out” our emotional expressions to make sense of them so that we can proceed accordingly.  Unfortunately, emotions are so quick that we can’t sort them out fast enough—the damage is already done.  But we can stop them from occurring if we sort them out ahead of time using “Mind Set”, which automatically quells emotional outbursts as they erupt.


If applied correctly, the “Mind-Set” technique will control strong emotions that will occur tomorrow.  The idea is to convince yourself that tomorrow will be fine and that you don’t need to emotionally overreact to whatever typically comes your way.  This is accomplished the night before and the morning of.

The technique is useful in both work and private situations.  For example, if you have a typically stressful situation at work that you have to face (dealing with a difficult employee), you can “change your attitude” about it and thus, not overreact.  The same can be accomplished with situations involving family and friends.  You can do it the day before a stressful situation (e.g., dealing with a stressful situation at work, or an upcoming family get together), or you can do it every day to make every day better, until it becomes the natural way for you to react.


Download the PDF below to find out how.

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